There are many ways to feminize a man. Dressing him up in feminine clothes is certainly one method but it isn’t the only way. Being feminine is not only about looking feminine. It’s much more important how you feel deep inside. If you can make a person feel feminine then you have feminized him much more than you could have done with just clothes. Call this emotional feminization if you want. Of course, clothes can be a great start in getting a man to feel feminine.
Having a man access his feminine side, acknowledge that he has one and start to feel feminine is a very special accomplishment. In this article I’m going to explore different methods of feminizing your partner. Some may be more psychological while others seem more physical in their approach.
Every person is different and everyone has a different idea of what femininity means so you need to adopt the methods to the needs of your partner and see what works best. Also you need to be clear on what exactly you want to achieve. How far do you want to take this and what kind of femininity do you want to see in a man?
What this means exactly is different for everyone but generally there is an old fashioned (and in my opinion dated) set of rules for how a woman should be treated by a man. Well just turn it around and be the man in the house. Hold doors for him, buy him flowers and gifts once in a while. Also treat him as an object of desire and look at him as if you’re undressing him with your eyes. This will make him feel self conscious and physically desired. Both will put him sexually on a defensive or passive position which many people feel is a feminine trait. Also it will subconsciously encourage him to dress more feminine.
Take control of situations without his influence. Organize things without waiting for his approval and simply let him know what’s happening. I know that’s not necessarily making him feminine but it will gradually make him feel more dependent which helps in the overall process of being feminized. It doesn’t necessarily require that you are the primary earner in the relationship. I’ve known couples where the man earned the bread but the woman dealt with all the finances and had full control over his assets.
Surprise him. I’ve already mentioned gifts but there’s more. Go out with him and “take him" to a special place unexpectedly. Those kind of dates are much more fun anyway and it’ll make him try to read your mind and interpret your intentions because he won’t feel in control or prepared for what you might do next. All these things are best done gradually over a longer period to feminize him. And keep watching how he takes it and let him talk openly about how he feels. In fact, you must get him to talk openly about his feelings. Then you can adjust the feminizing procedure accordingly. Why not take him to a beauty spa?
Hide your own vulnerability (to a point). The more you show your vulnerable side, the more he’ll be encouraged to protect and nurture you, thus making you the feminine and passive partner. Turn that around and reduce how much you show your sensitive and vulnerable side. (I don’t believe in hiding it completely though). This will give him more confidence in you and you’re strength to cope with life which, in turn, will allow him to rely on you for emotional support.
This is mostly a physical way. It’s very hard to describe in words but I’ll give it a try. Touch him in a way that you’d touch a woman. Hold him in your arms often and have him lean on you. If he’s 3 feet taller than you then you can have him rest on your lap. When in bed try to put your arms around him as though he belongs to you and you want to hold and protect him. Many men have a hard time enjoying this because it’s hard for them to let go and give up control. My advice is to get him when he’s very relaxed. Ultimately everyone enjoys feeling this kind of warm protection from their partner but they have to learn to open up for it. Whether male or female, partners should do this a lot. For most women this is better than sex so just show him why. Let him experience it and he'll see why it's so special. Again this is great independently of feminization but it helps with the process.
In most forms of dance, steps and movements have a super strict gender code so this is a good place to swap roles. Take some dance classes if you aren’t yet into it. This can be loads of fun. Perhaps try ballroom dancing because you get beautiful dresses which can add to the whole experience. Lead him, twirl him like a woman and see how he plays a long.
Don’t underestimate the power of clothes. A man who wears feminine clothes will instantly feel more feminine. Some transvestites say that they feel so feminine while dressed up that they start wishing to be swept off their feet and be taken like a woman – even by a man despite being straight. If anyone could explain that to me if they’ve had such experience I’d be very interested to know more.
Then there's also forced feminization which is generally making him wear women's clothes and act like a girl. FF is a very erotic fantasy that's popular among men who like being feminized anyway. Follow the link for an article on that.
What kinds of outfits are best for this purpose, is up to you and your partner. You may want to start gradually by just having him wear panties or tights. Or you could subtly put some make-up on him. Another way is to have him wear tighter fitting trousers that reveal his body shape more but people might think he’s gay. I’ve written a lot about feminizing men with clothes so I’ll refer you to my other articles on that subject (see the links below). Super feminine outfits are the ballroom gown, the mermaid dress and the chiffon petticoat with lots of layers. If you can get him to feel comfortable in any of those, then you can confidently look him into the eyes and say:Honey…… you’ve been feminized!
Become a Feminine Man
You are absolutely right, the way the genders eat, talk, words, hold their bodies, speed and rate for eating and speech, what they talk about, behavior and so much more. This is where I was started on my oath and it led to the clothing. The non verbal signals we send out are powerful, then after that came the clothing, the gaffs, and the makeup. Which has taken me to hormones which deepened the behavior and makes it become the cement of my new and lovely base personality. A calmness and a settled new way of life that has helped me to become a kinder, gentler, more stable and nurturing person inside and out.
There are women who will assist with this and some who will not, as they have little interest. Don't let that worry you doll, you will soon see that you will attract those who think you can be a fun and pretty woman and will help you on the journey. It will happen.
I am such a better person, because I am what I was meant to be. Follow your heart and live your life.
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